Treat everyone with respect, that’s part of being a decent human being; But do not confuse that with treating everyone the same. Understanding that everyone has different wants and desires. If you speak to everyone the same that shows that you are not trying to communicate with the individual that you are speaking to, and thinking you’re speaking to yourself of even worse generalizing the people you communicate with.
Everyone is not the same and the quicker you you realize that, the faster you will communicate a path to you growth.
When I was aiming to grow even more this something that I had to learn. A key thought that occurred to me, that again might seem obvious to most people but we do not communicate only to share information. We communicate to share information that may connect you to other human. We communicate to see if the another person shares similarities to us, this is getting to know other person.
When people spoke to me, my thought was like “why are you telling me that I already know this”, but that was problem because I blocked off people from connecting with me. NO MATTER how smart you think you are you will limit yourself if you don’t speak to people and try to absorb their minds into your own. By communicating there’s information that you will learn, that you will not even think to search on google. That is the critical part the information is out there but you will not know what you need unless you interact.
Sometimes you have to admit you don’t know
I know a lot of these blogs posts are based on my experiences so there’s a point where I do not know. I get stuck but I do know that reaching out the right people helps me bridge the gap between my ideas. Because sometimes you are stuck but what’s keeping you stuck is clear to another person. This was a point that pride prevented me, from reaching out to people, I did not want anyone to know that I was stuck, do not fall for that trap. But you have can’t go around just telling everyone, you have to build a relationship with people that can actually understand or people that on a different level that you would like to be on.
Levels
Close Friends
Professional Relationships
Family
Acquaintances
Everything In between
These are just some of the levels that you have to start keeping note of the different types of relationships. You have to see that these people are individuals that you have communicate with differently. People who stay the same, say things like ” that’s being a chameleon ” , that’s not authentic they say, but I say if you are speaking to people that are not close to you, please treat people the way that they want to be treated. How dare you be so lazy that you do not treat people based on the environment, time and the personality that they are projecting currently.
The key is to realize that everyone has different layers of their personality that they only reveal in different situations.
Studying the people around you
I know people may think that I’m crazy for this, but I keep physical notes of everyone that I interact with, Instead of leaving it to my memory I like to collect notes and memories so that will be better able to interact with them in future. I’m a person that likes really getting my thoughts out on paper and analyze what’s inside me mind, I enjoy tearing my thoughts apart to really think of how I could improve.
People love to pretend they don’t have thoughts that may seem abnormal but if we were able to get it all on paper, you would see that we all are just as crazy. I’ve been judged on my thoughts before, people have read what was supposed to be private thoughts. I felt backlash because of it but that comes down to those people violating personal boundaries. Once I was analyzing incentives, getting my thoughts on paper and having fun with words and experimenting to explore my creativity. Someone read my notes without my permission and said that my thoughts are crazy, well I have a reply for that, am I really crazy for wanting to have creativity or should I just lock myself in a box of normal?
I’m finally freeing myself of the shackles that I’ve built for the past two years, flexibility in thoughts and expression will allow you to make connections that will be hidden if you lock yourself in one way of thinking.
This article is part of my goal to write everyday for an hour and post it everyday. It may not be edited to my standards but the goal is create value and get content out everyday.
