The way we change ourselves is going through phases, to simplify I’ll just call them transitions. There’s going to be point of gather knowledge and vision of what you want to become then actually a trial that you will need to face in order use the knowledge you’ve acquired.

Unless you want to stagnate throughout your life these transitions are unavoidable. Don’t forget who you were but let go of enough to move forward. Create an idea of who you want to become and get enough knowledge to get there. Knowledge is not enough because if you do not have the self-awareness to identify where you need to destroy and replace or build upon you will inevitably go in circles or collect information that will never allow you to kill your demons.

Let me tell you a little bit about what caused my need for growth and transitions in my life it all started when I was a kid that was lost and confused about what was needed for people to connect with you I spent way too much time pretending to be something I wasn’t to attract the type of people that I truly had no interest in being around other than the idea that’s what I supposed to do wasted intellect and time. My desire to grow came from when I realize I had no faithful friends and the people that I wanted to connect with, wanted nothing to do with me because I didn’t develop myself the way I should of, deep down I hid my desire to learn and excel. The minute I decided I didn’t want to live a certain life I had no one around me. The pain that came from this started me down the path of first self-destruction and embarrassment of the person I was, but this was a beautiful moment in my life even though I couldn’t connect the dots at the time, it was the start of self-awareness. In reflection it was because of one person who I felt like I wanted to care about and see the real me rejected the person I pretended to be. Suddenly I started becoming starkly aware of all the things where I was inadequate like I couldn’t communicate how I truly felt, had never developed the proper social skills to interact with people in a healthy manner. This was painful at first because at the time I believed there was no way to change all these things about myself and no had no Idea about growth and fixed mindsets at the time.

The cornerstone of self-development is realizing it’s all about your mind and creating a mind that’s strong and wise enough to see yourself and world for what it is. The growth mindset is something that should be instilled in from kids an early age but instead what’s reinforced albeit indirectly is that you’re either stupid or smart. Good thing at this time even though I was unsure about how I was going to create all this disruption in the way I operated I still had hope and I was surfing YouTube looking for powerful information and luckily, I came across a ted talk by Carol Dweck on growth mindsets, there’s so many other things that led to this moment that I may talk about later. The summary of that is if you believe you can change and grow everything in your mind will line up to make that your reality. Letting go of the need for perfection and adopting the idea of learning for mastery over time by just deliberately trying to progress.

So, armed with this simple knowledge I started my own hero’s journey and confronted the darkest parts of myself and opened my mind to new perspectives. Faced my fears and problems and myself and realized it was my responsibility and mine alone to rectify them.
Transition periods is about knowing where you want to be, gathering the knowledge and like the hero in many great mythic stories going to fight and slay dragons and demons that stand in the way of your development. But remember it all starts with the mental state that design for yourself that builds a solid foundation.

I’m going to go in-depth about a lot of problems that held me back, like isolation and believing in the ideas of how life is supposed to lived and compulsive behaviors that limited my full potential. One block at a time in further posts, there’s more to come and I’m excited about using my experiences as fuel to desire to create something that can resonate with others.